moving on and being who you are,,,

So sometimes we get that friend who thinks it's all you who is wrong, they can do no wrong and are perfect, blah blah, well nobody is perfect and we have to get on with that- much to our saddness.
I think over the past few months, I've learnt a lot of life lessons as such- how I behave, how I think, how I respond and also how I feel. I've learnt that I should trust nobody because you don't know whose behind you with a knife but also that we must stay true to ourselves and not follow the crowd. I don't want to be one of those girls who bum lick each and every showjumper, competitor or whatever on youtube and I've learnt that that isn't what counts- it isn't the list of subscribers that counts, but it's our journeys as people. I love horses so my journey is with my horse, but we're all on journeys, each and everyone of us.

So I've been wrong about many things, recently and in the past and I perhaps approach a situation in the wrong way at times- but I hate looking around and seeing all these ignorant people- or is it that I'm the ignorant person as I've got such a shallow view on so many people? I'm not sure! But I'm fed up of people treating their horses like they're machines, like they're just they're just there for the sake of, there to dominate and make submit- I've learnt that it isn't about that, I've learnt that it is actually a friendship. Do we try to dominate our friends? Should we smack our friend on the shoulder and tell them no when they stand on your foot? When they don't mean to- yes it hurts, but we've all stood on someones foot before, we've all gotten fed up and frustrated at someone because they don't understand us and we're all guilty to making mistakes- now, we must relate this to our horses, friends, family- sometimes we get mad, sometimes we get angry and upset but we have to give them respect and remember that they are not perfect! I strive and think that I have a friendship with Shadow- it may not be the perfect friendship to someone else, I don't ride him yet and we're both learning things each and every moment together, but what we've got is perfect to me!

Now, we can all say well it's my horse and I do what I like, or we're happy and it's nobody elses business- that is quite right, but everyone of us has an opinion, everyone of us has lied to ourselves ( I've done this on several occasions!) and most of us have moaned about other people. I think that having an opinion is a wonderful thing- it shapes who we are and it makes us that little bit more unique- I don't know all the answers but I equally do know some answers. We have to remember that whilst we have to take what people say on our chin and 'forget' it, it can actually be something very valid to us and help us discover new paths- after all nobody is a perfect rider- if someone thinks that they've reached their destination in a few months, then they are quite wrong- in my opinion- I believe our destination never ends because we're always striving for more. We're greedy and we always want that little bit more or want to do that little bit something- we may have done it with one horse, but doesn't mean that we've done it with each and every horse that crosses our path in our life!

But whilst baring that thought in mind, we also musn't forget who we are. We can't spend our whole lives trying to amend broken friendships when there is only one person trying, but we shouldn't hold grudges, we should just drop it and forget it - move on, it's all part of the journey and it will help us move forward. Everything that happens, happens- we can't change it and there will always be that little dent where it has been, we just have to leave it be and it will help our flowers to blossom...